Let's talk about being attracted to someone. Supposedly we all have a type. Some are just looking for someone breathing. Some have a long list of physical traits. Some have a long list of personality traits with a couple of physical traits thrown in. Some aren't looking.
I believe those who are discerning but open themselves up to more than just certain physical characteristics have a greater chance of spending their life with someone. Why? Simply because you shouldn't start by weeding out all guys with a certain color hair. You greatly reduce the chances of meeting a woman if she has to be a certain dress size. I am convinced though you need to be a bit more choosy than picking someone who is breathing.
If I walk into a room of strangers, I can easily pick out a guy I would like to spend time with. I'd choose him on his looks. There are certain physical markers which I find more attractive than others. I'm a sucker for dark hair and blue eyes (hello, Matt Bomer). If you list out all my male friends, I could pick the lesser of the evils (it's an expression) with whom I think I could be compatible with. If you parade fifty guys in front of me who are a mix of the two groups, it might be harder to choose. Do you go with someone you are physically attracted to or do you choose someone you know?
There is no denying the initial physical response. We all have eyes and when our brain registers "hottie!" we have a tendency to take a second look. I'd encourage everyone though to take a second look at the friends you have. Don't check for the physical markers but check to see if they are someone you could spend the rest of your life with.
Physical attraction can dissipate in the stench of sweaty socks left in the bedroom.
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